According to a Web site called the Baby Center (US) and Baby Centre (UK), a child's happiness in life can be shaped by a parent.
One may think that it's easy to make a child happy; just give him candy, just give her a toy and everything will be better, right? But that isn't necessarily the case.
One needs to give one's child the proper tools early on for creating a happy life but how can a parent teach that to a 5-year old?
A parent should be able to give a child enough space for free play. That is unstructured, unencumbered time to do what s/he wants without being told as to what s/he needs to do.
Your children are being told every day what to do; don't cross the street, finish your milk, take a nap, etc.
By allowing enough time each day for them to discover what makes them happiest, you are not only raising a happy child, you are giving him/her the skills to think him/herself.
This is linked to another tip from Baby Center, in which a child has to be able to solve his/her own problems without help.
This isn't to say that you shouldn't care as a parent; just let them figure out the little things: how to turn on a light, how to wash their hands in the sink, etc.
These small decisions will lead to bigger things such as how to verbalise feelings without throwing a tantrum, how to say what they want to say with kindness, etc.
The premise is; when kids are given enough freedom to understand concepts on their own terms they learn to be good adults.
Where does this leave you as a parent? You are still responsible for the connection between mind and body which means you still need to form boundaries through the food they eat, the time they sleep, etc.
Nurture the child, don't stifle them and you'll have an exceptionally happy child on your hands.
One may think that it's easy to make a child happy; just give him candy, just give her a toy and everything will be better, right? But that isn't necessarily the case.
One needs to give one's child the proper tools early on for creating a happy life but how can a parent teach that to a 5-year old?
A parent should be able to give a child enough space for free play. That is unstructured, unencumbered time to do what s/he wants without being told as to what s/he needs to do.
Your children are being told every day what to do; don't cross the street, finish your milk, take a nap, etc.
By allowing enough time each day for them to discover what makes them happiest, you are not only raising a happy child, you are giving him/her the skills to think him/herself.
This is linked to another tip from Baby Center, in which a child has to be able to solve his/her own problems without help.
This isn't to say that you shouldn't care as a parent; just let them figure out the little things: how to turn on a light, how to wash their hands in the sink, etc.
These small decisions will lead to bigger things such as how to verbalise feelings without throwing a tantrum, how to say what they want to say with kindness, etc.
The premise is; when kids are given enough freedom to understand concepts on their own terms they learn to be good adults.
Where does this leave you as a parent? You are still responsible for the connection between mind and body which means you still need to form boundaries through the food they eat, the time they sleep, etc.
Nurture the child, don't stifle them and you'll have an exceptionally happy child on your hands.
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